Hey, This Is My Story!
I am just now concluding that narcissism is a virus that has infected everybody in the world that is breathing air. I even apply this to my own life with a great deal of regret.
Nobody wants to admit they have narcissistic leanings in their life. And yet, if you listen to them, and even listen to yourself, you will see it. I did not know how aggravating it was, but I was to learn pretty soon.
Recently I had a heart attack and had a stent put in one of my arteries, the widow make her. It was this experience that showed me the level of narcissism in my own life.
When anybody would call me and ask how I was, I would mention that I recently had a heart attack and had a stent inserted in one of my arteries. Before I can even get to the end of that sentence, the person on the other end of the line will say, “Oh, a couple of years ago, I had a heart attack and had two stents put in.” And then they would go on and on and on about their condition and experience.
When I thought we had come to the end of that conversation, they then mentioned, “And I have a cousin who had a heart attack and had several stents put in him I can’t remember how many.” Then, were all down another rabbit trail. I sure would like to catch that rabbit.
Coming to the end of this conversation, I said, “Well, I hope you’re doing well.” To which I got the reply, “Thank You, I appreciate that.”
Hanging up the phone, I thought a bit that the person on the other end of the phone did not allow me to tell my story.
For me, this heart attack was quite an experience that I never expected to experience. I know my father had several heart attacks, but I never assumed he had willed it two me. It’s during these times that you think seriously about dying.
I have been tempted to spread the rumor that I won the million-dollar lottery for the week. Once that got out, I would get all kinds of calls to hear my million dollars’ story. But, of course, I know that they would want to be put on my Christmas list.
The discouraging point is nobody wanted to know the story of my heart attack. My heart attack was an opportunity for them to brag, or so it seemed, about their heart attack or their uncle’s heart attack or somebody else’s.
After going through a heart attack why do I want to hear about someone else’s heart attack and how they got through it.
Of course, that is my narcissism coming to the surface. I want everything to be about me and center on my life. I’m not sure what to do or how to deal with this narcissistic virus that seems to be penetrating my life.
I don’t think I will bring this up with my doctor the next time I visit him. I suspect he would send me to his psychology friend, and I certainly don’t want that kind of examination. I don’t think I could pass.
The one thing I have learned about this narcissistic virus is that there comes a point where it explodes. I didn’t know that before, but I found out just recently.
Another friend called and asked about me, and I said I just had a heart attack and had a stent implanted in my artery. Again, before I could get to the end of that sentence, they began explaining how they also had a heart attack several years ago, and they had four stents put in. Then they went on and on about their heart attack and how it changed their life, and what they did to keep from having another one.
I don’t know what triggered my explosion, but all of a sudden, I heard myself saying, “Hey, stop right there. This is my heart attack, not yours. This is my story, not yours.”
Then without hesitating, I went into my story in every detail I could think of at the time. I only wished I had recorded it so I could know what I actually said.
Just before I hung up, the person on the other end said, “Well, I’ll be praying for you, and I hope you get better.” Then there was that infamous “click.” And the conversation was over.
I hung up the phone and turned around only to see the Gracious Mistress of the Parsonage staring at me with one of her “stares,” and I heard her say, “What in the world did you just say?”
At that moment, I knew I was in for some trouble, so I said, “I’m not sure; what did I say?”
I knew she would tell me what I said, so I didn’t need a recording of it. But I kind of lost control because of that narcissistic virus that has infected me.
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10 Social Media Dos and Don’ts for Higher Education Enrollment Success
Social media has become the buzz-phrase of the marketing world; the must-have solution to all marketing challenges. It’s cheap, fast and has reached near saturation in some age groups.But leveraging social media marketing – the art and science of getting your message out using this online ecosystem – isn’t as easy as setting up a Facebook page. The ability to shape opinions of prospective students, current students, and alumni in this online world is largely determined by the social authority that your message carries. In other words, successful social media marketing campaigns depend on the trust the market places inyour messenger.This should come as no surprise. It’s the same trust process we, as admissions professionals, use when we visit high schools, engage college counselors and have alumni-sponsored events in distant cities. The differences are simply the delivery channel and the types of trusted sources. For social media, the delivery channel is web-based (via a social media site) and the trusted sources tend to be students and peers, rather than adult authority figures.In this playbook we outline how colleges can leverage their existing resources to build an effective social media marketing strategy. We will also give some guidance on “do’s” and “don’ts” for insuring that your message is heard, while also enhancing your brand identity.Why should you care?So why should college admissions officers care about all of this social media business? Because your prospects care – a lot!According to a recent EDUCAUSE study[1], social media use has reached near saturation levels, with 95 percent of 18 to 19-year-old college students using social media sites regularly. Facebook still leads the way with 80 percent of 18-24 year-olds checking in several times a day. Social media touches virtually every facet of these students’ lives. It has become the primary way that today’s students stay in touch with each other and the world. It is where their attention is focused and where they first look for information, including details about colleges.These trends have a direct impact on college admissions because high school students are increasingly turning to social media, rather than a college website, as they begin looking for a school. Today’s college searches begin on sites such as collegeprowler.com or Facebook (with enhancements such as Campus Buddy). Mash-up sites with titles like “Ten ways to use social media to pick a college”[2] are the new equivalent of the college section at the local bookstore.In a recent study by Noel Levitz[3], 74 percent of college-bound high school seniors said they think colleges should have a presence on social media sites. Eighty-one percent of these students admitted that they rely on official and unofficial online content about colleges during their search process.Yet, despite this obvious shift to social media content, college marketers have failed to keep up. The study also showed that only 26 percent of private four-year institutions were intentionally using social media resources in their marketing efforts.Marketing must reach its target audience to make a difference. To be heard you need to meet your prospects on their turf. Social media is the foundation and future of modern college recruitment and marketing precisely because it is their turf. The ultimate goal is to have your messages picked-up by the marketplace and passed on spontaneously – and often exponentially – by trusted sources. You want your message to go viral! (“Going Viral” refers to when an image, video or link spreads rapidly through a population by being frequently shared with a number of individuals; social media makes this sharing easy to do.)So now, a little background.3 Parts of Social MediaFrom the earliest days of the Internet, folks have looked to online communities as a source of trusted peer-based information. It started with the original dial-up systems of the 1970s – remember “moderators”? – and then evolved into web-based communities in the 1980s and 1990s that were packed with “collaborative filtering” websites. Although the tools and technology to engage in online conversations have certainly evolved, the underlying process is much the same as it was 30 years ago. Similarly, its effectiveness and ability to shape opinion are still based on the credibility of the people who serve as online key opinion leaders (KOLs).Fast forward to today.Modern online communities have exploded into an ecosystem bursting with millions and millions of fan pages, blogs and tweets. Facebook alone claims more than 700 million users, with more than 50 percent of those people logging in every day. This growth has turned an Internet niche of obscure hobbyists into a marketer’s dream – a vast audience of consumers that can be reached in near real-time at a very low cost.Social media is a particular form of online conversation held among a group of people with a shared interest and is mediated by a “reputable” source. (But remember, on Facebook a “reputable” source might be a 17-year-old college freshman!) To successfully capitalize on this busy world of social media, admissions officers must understand its three core components: channel, reach and credibility.Teenage experts aside, these three components determine the ability of a particular social media outlet to impact the market and influence the opinions of its participants.More Than Just FacebookAlthough Facebook is the most popular social media site in the history of the world, the bulk of social media marketing efforts don’t have to be focused there. Now, that’s not to say that every admissions office should not have a Facebook page – they should. But your Facebook page is where prospects will go after they are already interested in you (probably after they decided to apply). Once students are admitted, they will likely become daily visitors.A Facebook page isn’t ideally suited to be a recruiting device, it’s meant to be a yield device, best used after admission offers go out.In this playbook, however, we are more concerned with social media marketing as a means of building your brand identity – and building your prospect pool. So we’re going to focus on recruiting high school juniors who are just starting to think about college. Facebook is great for keeping “friends” – but how do you find new ones?4 Steps To Making New ‘Friends’The first step to making new friends on social media is to think like a digitally connected high school junior – minus the gossip and other baggage, that is. Today’s students are much more active seekers of information. Remember, today’s students:Use their social media network to stay connected to friends
Use search engines to find relevant blogs, mash-ups and helpful websites
Visit college websites and college content on social media sites such as Facebook, YouTube and others.
Want the “inside” story right now!The second step is to do some research.Before attempting to directly enter any social media conversation or friendship, survey the “buzz” that’s out there about your institution. This can be an onerous and time consuming task but it’s worth it. You will learn quite a bit about how your school and its culture are being portrayed and perceived. You are also likely to come across a range of misperceptions and falsehoods that you can begin to alter as you move forward in the process.The third step is to use social media aggregator services and analytical tools such as Radian6, HubSpot and Twitalyzer to help you monitor the ongoing conversation and make adjustments to your messaging as your market perceptions change. While there are definite costs involved with this monitoring, it’s the only way to really know what’s working for you and what isn’t.Finally, and this is only after you understand the lay of the land, move on to step four: enter into the conversations and begin to disseminate your own content in ways that make sense to your young, connected audience.Colleges can send their content directly, which means content is “produced” by official offices or personnel of the school, or indirectly, which means content comes from people familiar with your campus, but who are not acting in an official capacity. These indirect senders of content are usually current students, former students and “fans.” Both types of content – direct and indirect – are useful and can be complementary. But remember, both should be monitored and guided (if not quite controlled) by your designated “Social Media Ninja.” Your Social Media Ninja is responsible for monitoring the messaging and the content as well as any reactions or questions from your followers. We’ll talk more about this role in a subsequent playbook.A Few RemindersDifferent social media channels work for different folks. Think about the kinds of content you would like to make available and where it makes the most sense to post it. Setting up a YouTube channel is a great way to offer a “virtual campus tour” or share video of a special event, like a concert. Student-generated videos can provide a more informal look at campus life and can often be more effective than professionally produced marketing pieces – as long as they are thoroughly vetted and carefully selected. If you are lucky (or unlucky, depending on the content), one of these videos may go viral and expose your campus to millions of potential prospects.Facebook, blogging and tweeting are other ways to get your message out and provide a range of options for sharing information and influencing the perceptions of various constituencies. You can encourage current students to participate in the conversation and maintain topical Facebook pages devoted to different aspects of your school. (But be sure to stay involved and actively monitor the content.) Twitter gives you the ability to update prospective students on approaching deadlines, send reminders and engage people in conversations about timely topics. Blogs can provide insight into the admission process from a counselor or student perspective and create a forum for exchanging thoughts about admission related topics, like writing a personal essay, the use of test scores or things to do on campus.As you enter into these conversations, there are a few very important rules to keep in mind.Social Media Do’sBe authentic. Make your blogs and posts real and honest. Authenticity builds credibility slowly, but shameless promotion can destroy it quickly.
Be responsive. If comments are posted, make sure to follow up with clarifications and additional content. Take feedback seriously; don’t dismiss criticism out of hand.
Contribute to the broader conversation. Not everything needs to be a marketing message. Engage prospects on relevant topics and provide them with useful information on financial aid resources, testing strategies and personal essay writing. Help them navigate the admission process; don’t just try to recruit them.
Be consistent, build your brand. Think carefully about your image. Who are you? What differentiates your college? Be consistent in your messaging. Your online identity can take on a life of its own, so you want to be consistent across channels and accurately portray the campus culture.
Leverage your human resources. Social media, as we have said, is really an online conversation between groups of people with a shared interest. The more participants you involve, the livelier and more engaging the conversation will be. Admissions officers, administrators, faculty, staff, parents, students, alumni and friends all have a role to play.Social Media Don’tsDon’t be a one-way bullhorn.Don’t turn the conversation into a one-way broadcast that fails to engage participants in a conversation.
Don’t translate your view book into a series of blog posts. It’s not just about you; it’s about engaging in conversations with your audience about topics that are relevant to them.
Don’t be rude. Remember that your audience can be easily put off if you inadvertently snub a question or topic that’s relevant to them.
Don’t neglect your content. Stale content is worse than no content at all. Admissions offices historically have been on a multi-year content cycle. Every couple of years, we hire a marketing consultant and “update” our materials. That approach no longer works. Social media is a real-time conversation and your content must reflect real-time interests and events.
Don’t allow graffiti. Social media channels by their very nature are open communication forums and inevitably someone will post some offensive content or a gratuitously critical comment. Delete it immediately. You own your outlet and are responsible for what’s on it, even if you weren’t the one who put it there. The goal is not censorship, but to demonstrate that you are on top of things and pay attention to your followers.